Thinking about a life without problems is an illusion. My personal and clients’ experiences have helped me get this insight.
In life, we may come across some problems that repetitively appear in our lives. We try to fix them, they disappear for a brief period and show their faces again later in life.
I tried to fight with these repetitive problems in my life. I tried to fix them but some of them kept on coming. I also experienced that whenever I found myself on the way, speeding up, towards my goals; something would happen to derail me.
Is it a pattern within me that brings those difficult moments back into my life?
I have now grasped the meaning behind these repetitive painful experiences in my life.
Why is it so?
What are they?
How to deal with them?
How did I deal with them initially
Earlier I worked with my negative feelings and thoughts with cognitive and behavioral therapy approach. The feelings and thoughts which were disempowering, were my Automatic Negative Thoughts and resultant emotional experiences, I believed. I explained to myself that these ANTs and associated feelings are the results of my dysfunctional beliefs and paying them importance is strengthening my negative beliefs. So, I learned to ignore them. I just let them pass through my mind without attaching any judgment to them but acknowledging them as ANTs. Continue reading How to outgrow Life’s repetitive problems