Is Day Dreaming Helpful?

By on December 3, 2010 in Personal Development

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There are different opinions about Day Dreaming. One group may say that Day Dreaming is a waste of time. People can do much more by taking actions than day dreaming. The people in other group favors the process of day dreaming. And an another third group, as in any other case, has no sure side to take.

I believe that actions are critical in creating something useful in the World we experience through our Mind. Just thinking about something can not make it happen. It can create opportunities for you, take you closure to your goals but if you don’t grab those opportunities or take some actions, you are not actually impacting the Reality you live in.

At the same time, I believe that Day Dreaming is equally important. Here I am talking about Day Dreaming as a Visualizing Process that triggers new connections inside your brain. If you want to make an impact in your Reality with something which you have not yet learned, Day Dreaming can really help you preparing your brain for the same.  Continue reading...

What is Empowering Day Dreaming?

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7 tips to remain on track while creating the life you desire

By on September 28, 2010 in Personal Development, Spirituality
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It is easy to get distracted. It is also common to get trapped in our limiting beliefs and habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and acting.

Starting out on a path  to create the life of your desire is easy. We get motivated by reading a good book or listening to an inspiring speech or watching someone doing things we want to do. This initial spark is easy to create now a days. The problem is remaining on track consistently and creating the output we truly want in our lives.

Does that sound familiar?

I have experienced it often. Of course, as I grow and learn more, the easier it is becoming for me to come back on the track. I have observed that there are some specific measures that I take (sometimes consciously  and at other times without my awareness) that puts me back on the course I have committed myself to. This random measures are becoming more identifiable and easy to apply as I get more chances to implement them.

Let’s explore:

1. Taking a break

It is very tempting to continue what you are doing even if you have a feeling inside that it is not taking you towards your goal. For example, surfing on internet for no obvious reason (just to load yourself with more information) is very tempting act to spend hours on it. You realize that it is not helping you move forward, yet you continue to do the same.

Some people feel guilty and upset after remaining trapped inside this habit. These feelings further takes you away from the resourceful feeling-states that can help you take empowered actions.

I have found that this temptation or habit can not just be broken by explaining yourself the need to break it. The fastest and the most effective way it works for me is to TAKE A BREAK. Yes, standing up from what you are doing or going out from the place where you are working is the best way to regain your power back. No explanation to yourself at that moment, but just acting on (taking a break) helps.

Slowly the power inside you re-aligns your desire with your thinking and you will be guided to take results-oriented actions.  Continue reading...

2. Visualization can break inertia

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Why am I attracting accidents in my life nowadays?

By on September 6, 2010 in Personal Development, Spirituality

For last one week, I am attracting vehicular accidents in my life! I have been driving a car for last 15-16 years but such experiences (with conscious  awareness) have never been so close to one another any time before.

In last week, it happened with me three to four times. Every time the experience was different and made me think differently. Some of you may find this funny to write or document about. But, I am feeling the need to do so.

First experience- No fault of mine (everyone thinks like that, you may say)

I was in my car at a traffic junction. The place was really a crowded one on a rainy Saturday evening. I was tired and returning from a journey of around 100 kilometers.

Suddenly I noticed that a car (bigger than mine!) came out from a nearby street and took a turn to join the cars standing at that traffic junction. There was not a much space to accommodate it besides my car, yet the driver tried to get in a narrow space.

I found him very restless. Through my closed window I waved him and asked him to wait till the traffic moves from that signal point. As he noticed that the red light turned into green, he could not wait but to accelerate his car.  Continue reading...

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How could you help this little girl?

By on August 30, 2010 in Relationship, Spirituality

I thought of writing about this event to my blog for a quite a long time. Some how I lost touch with it. Today, suddenly this has popped in my mind. I decided to do the writing immediately as I don’t want to let this experience of mine go out of my awareness. I feel an urge to share it with my readers.

I remember that day very well

It was Tuesday afternoon. I was in my consulting room and  noticed that an appointment was booked for a little girl of 10 years old. I finished my regular mail checking and other administrative work in my office before she arrived for her consultation.

A little girl with her uncle

She was brought to me by her uncle as she was remaining sad and not communicating enough with her family members. She spent time alone and would talk only when it was extremely necessary for getting some work done. Her uncle also told me that she would gaze out of her bedroom’s window for a long. Sometimes she would cry for a long and was difficult to help at that time.

She wasn’t always like that. She had witnessed her parents dying in a vehicular accident. They were returning back home from a holiday break and met with an accident. She was the only survivor of that incidence.  Continue reading...

Face to face with her

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How to outgrow Life’s repetitive problems

By on August 15, 2010 in Personal Development, Spirituality

Thinking about a life without problems is an illusion. My personal and clients’ experiences have helped me get this insight.

In life, we may come across some problems that repetitively appear in our lives. We try to fix them, they disappear for a brief period and show their faces again later in life.

I tried to fight with these repetitive problems in my  life. I tried to fix them but some of them kept on coming. I also experienced that whenever I found myself on the way, speeding up, towards my goals; something would happen to derail me.

Is it a pattern within me that brings those difficult moments back into my life?

I have now grasped the meaning behind these repetitive painful experiences in my life.

Why is it so?

What are they?

How to deal with them?

How did I deal with them initially

Earlier I worked with my negative feelings and thoughts with cognitive and behavioral therapy approach. The feelings and thoughts which were disempowering, were my Automatic Negative Thoughts and resultant emotional experiences, I believed. I explained to myself that these ANTs and associated feelings are the results of my dysfunctional beliefs and paying them importance is strengthening my negative beliefs. So, I learned to ignore them. I just let them pass through my mind without attaching any judgment to them but acknowledging them as ANTs.  Continue reading...

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Balancing- What you should be and What you are

By on March 11, 2010 in Personal Development, Spirituality

(This is an unedited post. I have not done its spell and grammar check. It was high time that I did not continue with posting. Of course, I grew in other areas of my life during these days. I realized today that I have a commitment towards this blog and its few readers. So I decided to shoot the one directly from my heart.)

People have tendency to motivate themselves by feeling pain in their current life situations. This creates the impetus for them to move away from where they are right now. This is one way of going for your desires. We have been conditioned to think and act this way.

The focus in this way of living is to move towards what you should be, and constantly feeling unhappy about your current situations in life. This is generally a process occurring in your psyche outside your conscious awareness. There may not be an intention to deal with the life this way. But, this is the way it is for the most.

The critical aspect that is missing here is the acknowledgment what you are. You devalue your current self. You obsessively tend to focus towards something different and more attractive aspects of yourself that has not yet manifested in your present self.

The excessive and obsessive focus on What you should be than What you are!  Continue reading...

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Find and live your true-self

By on January 24, 2010 in Personal Development, Spirituality

Life can be lived in two ways:

1. In the way our conditioned-self directs us to take on

2. We find our purpose and our true-self and design our lives based on the direction that we get after aligning with our true-selves.

The first way is the most natural (?) way of living for most of us. We live our lives based on the beliefs and assumptions that are programmed inside us by our family members, teachers and other environmental influences. We accept this learning without our conscious awareness. We learn this because we were taught to think and behave in specific ways and also by observing people around us living and thinking about life in their own ways.

The mind in our early lives was like a sponge. It absorbed what ever it was offered to. The more consistently and intensively something was offered, the more impact that left on our psyche. People who played critical role in our lives did not have any wrong intention, in most of the cases, to affect us negatively. Yet, they pass their negative (better word is: dis-empowering or maladaptive) life patterns to us without knowing the process happening.  Continue reading...

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Learning lessons of Life while learning a Guitar- part 2

By on January 12, 2010 in Personal Development

It takes time

Making things happen in your reality takes time. Your thoughts attract towards you the  events and circumstances that are actual match to your desires. The universe is ready to help you fulfilling your wishes but you need to work on releasing the resistance that is stopping the reality to emerge.

If you know the right method the process is faster

I tried making the process of learning enjoyable and faster by getting involved with various tutorials and course online along with my teacher at home. Various people told about doing things in their own way. When I found the method that is working for me, the growth  was accelerated.  This does not mean what others said was false. It does mean that I am required to find the ways that work for me.

Work in small chunks

I have noticed that when someone is very much passionate about something, he works really hard and for long hours for making things happen. I have learned from my experience that whenever your brain needs to make changes, it is more useful to work in small chunks. Rather than pushing yourself very hard to get things done in a single session, it helps if you do things consistently in small chunks. That has worked for me in learning Guitar. I applied that to other areas of my life and it worked there also.  Continue reading...

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Learning lessons of Life while learning a Guitar- part1

By on January 4, 2010 in Personal Development

[Paper]tiger Jams {Explored}
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I did not know anything about Guitar before 8 months. My brain did not have any idea about what it is and how to get tuned with it. No learning!

Somehow, I don’t know what happened on that day but myself and my wife thought of learning Guitar. MY father was learning classical music from a teacher who used to come to our place and I happened to ask him about a Guitar teacher. He said he knew one and would send him to meet us. That’s it! A new chapter was added to our lives.

New experiences coming into my life

I noticed that new things have started happening in my life. I started noticing music around my life which initially I never observed. I started listening to the background music very closely in any TV advertisement and in any song I would listen to.

I realized that these things were there around me all the time, but I had never noticed them before. Now they have started becoming the part of my life.

I never looked at videos containing guitar training in YouTube and now I have channels subscribed in my account talking about Guitar.  Continue reading...

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How to persist when Life takes its own time

By on December 15, 2009 in Personal Development, Spirituality

The last flower?
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It takes courage. It takes faith. It takes commitment to apply.

Time that tests your patience

It is the time when things are not in your control. You have worked hard and still Life is not turning the way you want it to. You may start doubting whether you really have control over things in your life or the events  happen randomly and you are there just to respond to  them!

This time fills your heart with feelings of disappointment, frustration and also hopelessness at times. You start wondering how much more life asks from me. Am I going to live my whole life this way? Struggling and working to find ways how to make it happen and never making it happen?!

You may even start doubting your worthiness to receive what you want in your life.

You are committed and ready to learn and apply whatever it takes but sometimes do not find any clue for it.

I am a believer of the philosophy that says that, the outside events in our lives are the results of what is going on inside us. This belief further reinforces the above mentioned feelings of despair for some; as you tend to blame yourself for things not going well in your life.  Continue reading...

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