Difficulties are opportunities to better things; they are stepping-stones to greater experience. Perhaps someday you will be thankful for some temporary failure in a particular direction. When one door closes, another always opens. (Source: Unknown. Tell me if you know.)
If you have read my previous posts, one theme should easily be seen all over various articles I have written. This is the common theme that goes on inside my head all the time, when I think or write about any personal development article.
This is where I think everything finally comes down to, when it is about any affair related to personal development. We are born with the ability to grow and develop naturally provided we are not conditioned to act otherwise.
I understand now that-
You are required to get conditioned in a specific way, so that you come across specific people and life circumstances in your life, so you grow later on in a specific way and fulfill your purpose of life; if you are conscious about the process.
This is profound if you pay attention to what I am saying here.
I have written at many places in this blog about how our conditioning creates obstacles in our process of growing and developing. I have said before at other places that we are naturally born with an ability to grow and develop provided we are not blocked by our conditioning.
Said this before, one question goes on inside my head, why then conditioning happens in the first place! It happens to all and no one is spared. It is different for different people. Unique for every individual and so, every one of us has unique obstacles to overcome.
This then triggered an insight in me that there has to be a purpose for us getting conditioned in a specific way. Yes, there has to be a divine reason for us getting conditioned and have unique obstacles in our lives.
Problems Are Necessary Components of Our Growth Process
Looking at what I had in my life as difficulties and comparing them with what has happened to many of my clients, family members and relatives, I am now convinced to believe that we all have our own share of conditioning and difficulties. And, they are unique for every one of us. They are necessary components for our growth process to start with in the first place and what direction it takes later on.
We are all required to have specific conditioning in this lifetime, so that we are then exposed to specific difficulties. These difficulties trigger inside us the very unique growth process we are required to have for our soul to mature in this lifetime.
This makes a complete sense to me now, and it makes me more prepared to welcome any difficulty that comes into my life as an opportunity for my growth process to take a new direction and for its acceleration.
Actually, the seeds for this insight took its place inside me, when I was faced with a client of mine, a little girl who lost her parents in a single accident. The girl asked me why it had happened to her. For what she was punished by God and why she had to face such a difficulty in her life when she had never done anything wrong in her lifetime. She could not make sense of why the God who was there to take care of kids could ever give such problems to them.
Some of the difficulties come suddenly and they shock the ongoing way of living. Some problems emerge gradually as we continue to live based on our conditioning. Both types of difficulties are required life events or circumstances which trigger a growth process inside us.
Two Different Paths You Can Go On
People can go on two different paths when they are faced with the difficulties which come on their own ways.
Some start blaming their fate and feel victimized. They suffer and continue to live feeling helpless and paralyzed by the problems. They compare their problems with others and look for the people who are happier than themselves. They continue to believe that they are the ones who are the most affected ones.
Other people accept the problems as opportunities and look for the Empowering Insight from the experiences they are exposed to. Looking for the insights that can empower me in my negative or difficult life experiences was not easy. I was also trapped in a ‘victimized state‘ for a long, until I came to understand the purpose of those difficulties as talked earlier in this post. This realization changed me.
- Welcome the difficulties that come into your life with gratitude,
- Look for the hidden meaning and purpose for them to enter into your life,
- Seek for the assistance if required,
- Take necessary steps to deal with those difficulties,
- Remain open for new Empowering Insights to emerge in this whole process,
- At the end you will feel that you have reached a higher level of living (of course, more resourceful way of living!)
That’s it for this post.
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Dr. Sudeep Shroff
Feeling grateful about the problems in my life